Mommy Thoughts #2

Yesterday I came across a Facebook status update that was related to being a parent and it being okay to say "no" to your child. I recently have been practicing the opposite in that my goal is to be able to say "yes" to my child as to continue to keep the creativity flowing. Let me clarify the meaning of the "yes" or refraining from saying "no" to my child. Growing up I was often told "no" for reasons that were as simple as, "Because I said so." This answer was given without regards to the later affects that it has on a child. In some instances this provided me with the opportunity to sneak around and do it anyway because curiosity was on the rise.

Saying "yes" with an explanation as to the parameters of the permission given or the results of the outcome I desired would have helped to give me the understanding of the "fears" that exist behind that no. The status update spoke about buying the best for our children and being able to tell them "no" when the item is not appropriate. Saying "no" is not enough when trying to explain the economics of being a consumer and just buying things especially to a child. That "no" symbolizes a rejection that is perpetuated by typical societally created lack and limitations.

By saying "yes" with explanation you are promoting more independent thinking with your child and opening opportuntiies for the child to develop into a more accepting child.

I challenge you this week to say "yes" to the voice of your child and do the things that the child is asking of you to do in a way that is pleasing. If you want a clue as to how this works watch the movie "Yes Man" as it truly shows that there are no limitations and nothing is impossible.

Thanks for reading. Until next week!